If you're the type of guy that dreams about going to Vietnam every year because you think that local Vietnamese people actually respect you and admire you for having lived abroad, then you need to stay away from my blog. Vietnam, especially Saigon has been rapidly developing in the past few years. Educated people are informed. They know how bad the economy is in America. This isn't the 90s anymore, locals are aware that many Viet kieu are poor and toil away to save money just to blow it all on a trip to Vietnam. If you think that being Viet kieu is actually a good thing in Vietnam, then think again. Obviously you've never lived or worked in Vietnam, faced discrimination, then again... if you could keep a decent paying job here, then you'd be living here... that's right. YOU! I'm talking to you. Yeah YOU reading this right now!
It's a myth to think that girls will throw themselves at you. Any high quality girl from a well off family with a tiny bit of education will always be cautious about a Viet kieu. Why? It's because Viet kieus are on vacation and they can lie easily to get what they want. They're here today. Gone tomorrow. A girl who is going to give it up that quickly and easily, must be really into you. Why? Because you're paying. I'll admit that you're likely nicer and funnier and different than most guys she has ever met. But guess what, either way you're paying. You're not going to get anything for free. Whether or not you directly hand her cash. You're paying. You're getting played. The hotter girl you aim for, the more you're going to pay. A girl here solely invested in a Viet kieu is a truly desperate girl who must really hate her life in Vietnam or her family really needs an ATM. Imagine for a moment if you were a hot girl in Vietnam. Imagine that you have the chance to go to a foreign land where you don't speak the language, where all your friends are no longer there, where you'll never be able to land a decent blue collar job (just pretend you never went to college or your degree is worthless abroad), where you're forced to adapt or be trapped at home all day. How easy would you do that? Compare that to your current life right now.
"But Kyle, I've heard so many stories of my guy friends telling me how easy it is." Would anyone admit that they paid to get laid? NOTHING IS FREE.
Why would a girl from a family who doesn't need anything from America need to go to America and labor away or just be locked up at home all day. Why should she give up all that freedom? Because she has no future in Vietnam, thus she is low quality. Most girls you ask nowadays, from teenagers to professional women with decent office jobs do not want to move abroad. They would love to visit their friends and relative. They would love to travel as a tourist. But they would not want to relocate away from their friends and family in Vietnam because they have everything they need here.
What about a high quality man? Aren't there fewer quality men here? Nope. That's an actual myth. Like I said, many Viet kieu guys are educated and smart. Many of them are funny and look clean. But honestly, many local Vietnamese guys are too. What do they have over a Viet kieu? Well first, they can be way more rich. They can come from better families. Culturally and language wise, they are the same, thus a much better fit for each other. Are there any negative traits? Of course, loads, but the same traits will still apply to a Viet kieu who loves local girls. I've met girls in the past who actually claims that there isn't much difference between Viet kieu on the prowl in Saigon than any other Viet guy. The main difference is that the Viet kieu has more disposable money at a short amount of time because he's on vacation. Yeah, girls know this now. If a girl is into a Viet kieu just because he's a Viet kieu, that's like a girl telling you she wants to be with you because you have black hair or because you have a cute smile. A little shallow right? A gold digger? Exactly, my point. So think about it next time. What do you really have over a local guy? Maybe you don't care that a girl in her late 20s' is past her prime in Vietnam? Ahhhh, of course, she's desperate for marriage because no girl here wants to be alone into their 30s. *cough DESPERATE!! *cough Are you actually more faithful? Are you actually wiser? Do you drive an Acura? I bet you know more English. But why does a local girl need your English? Oh, and you ride bitch when you come over here because you're too pussy to maneuver the traffic. Wow, that's such hot stuff from such a manly man. Any girl would swoon over driving her man around here. (sarcasm) What do you really have over a local guy here from a decent family?
How many horror stories have you heard about a hot girl coming to America and dumping her foolish husband? How many rich girls vs. poor girls emigrated because of marriage?
But a Viet kieu's family must really love and respect him right? Not necessarily. The love and attention you get from your family is because of your parents directly or indirectly helping those relatives. How much money has your family sent to your relatives? Next time come to Vietnam and not bring your family any gifts. Don't go shopping at Costco and see what happens. Come empty handed. They'll put up with you because you're a damn guest for a month. Afterwards, you won't be around anymore. Do you really think the admiration and care for you is real? For some families it is, because the family unit in Vietnam can be very strong. Vietnamese people will do anything for their families. Therefore, it's not because you're Viet kieu that they're treating you nicely. Blood will always be pampered, especially foreign blood. MAU MY!!! YO. Try living here for as long as I have and see if your relatives still care that much about you. Remember, in Vietnam, when you go visit someone you have to bring something. If they tell you not to, you still have to do it because they will talk shit about you when you leave. It's a fact. If you don't believe me, ask your parents.
I get it, you're special because you wear brand names that nobody has ever heard of before. I know you're all mighty because your Ed Hardy shirt was bought at the mall and not an outlet like the rest of your brand new clothes. (The only time a FOB shops for new clothes is before he goes back to Vietnam) Face it, everything that makes you special is primarily superficial, because whatever you have mentally can also be replicated here with a local guy or isn't in demand from a local girl.
The youth here don't give a rat's ass about whether or not your a Viet kieu. That term isn't even a part of their daily language. If you surveyed random people ( and I do this all the time whenever I travel or around town ) the countryside people who don't know any better will be in awwww about how much money you make a month compared to them, but city people are smart enough to calculate your cost of life and miserable America can be for Vietnamese people who never truly assimilated. Thus many of them are desperate to return to Vietnam where they can feel like a real man. Oh wait, that's when they meet a desperate girl who needs a real man. PERFECT!! Two desperate souls finding each other. Mark my words, unless a girl was from a well off family with a decent international education enough to understand the west culturally, I can't imagine being with her for long term. Now ask me this in 10 years when I'm still single and desperate. I'm sure my mind would change. But for now, I'm just meeting local girls here as a way to entertain you readers.
Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of cute girls with education here in Saigon. But they're smart enough to be cautious about a loser Viet kieu like me. Luckily, I'm smart enough to be aware of myself.
Now it's your turn. It's your turn to finally look into the mirror and realize that you're not that special. If you think being Viet kieu gives you instant advantage, then you're not looking at yourself hard enough. If anything, it's more of a negative thing being a Viet kieu. Watch any movies produced here and see how they portray the Viet kieu. It's very revealing. It's 2014. Saigon's got everything.
But don't let me deter you from coming here. Sorry for bursting your bubbles. Do come here. Visit your homeland, travel all of Vietnam, don't just stay in the south like a little bitch, the north is beautiful with girls far more beautiful than the south, and spend time with your family. Get to know a decent local girl because there are plenty of charming individuals out here who are genuinely nice. But they might be ugly. Yet, it can be very rewarding. But lose that sense of entitlement and stop being an asshole.
- your friend,
PS. I typed this in 15 minutes without proofreading while still in bed, so forgive any grammatical or syntax issues.